Be angry but…; it’s all in the “but”, everything that comes after that “but” is what is remembered. The “but” has the potential to negate everything that came before it. Whatever proceeds thereafter can either lift us up or tear us down.
“You failed your driver’s test, but your instructor said
that you can do it again in three months, so don’t worry about it.”
“I know you’re disappointed that you weren’t chosen as Head Girl,
but you’ll be a great House Captain as you’ll interact more with your teammates
and that’s what you love to do.”
“I love you, but I can no longer live with you; I want a
divorce.”
“Ninety percent in Math? But you know that if you’d tried a
little harder, you would have got full marks.”
The Apostle Paul wrote, Be
angry but do not sin (Ephesians 4:26 NRSVUE); he more than likely,
was echoing the advice of David, who wrote,
When you are angry [are
disturbed; tremble], do not sin. (Psalm
4:4)
In this Expanded Bible translation, we see in parenthesis the
words “disturbed” and “tremble”, this lets us know the level of anger of which both
the king and the apostle wrote.
I don’t know about you, though it doesn’t happen often, I have
become so angry that I didn’t just tremble, I could literally feel that my
spirit was disturbed.
When anger gets to the level of rage or fury that’s the
point at which the crossing over to sin becomes a great possibility. Clearly,
there’s a fine line between anger and sin. If anger is not restrained, then sin
will inevitably follow.
But it’s not about stifling your anger either, as that will
lead to other problems, one being self-destruction.
Anger is supposed to be temporary; anger should not be allowed
to linger or fester because the more we suppress our anger increases the chance
of it being a source of destruction.
For his anger lasts only a
moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime (Psalm 30:5 NIV)
God’s favour far outweighs His anger and that’s how it ought
to be with us. Galatians 5 tells us that self-control is an element of the
Fruit of the Spirit; the Fruit is incomplete when even one part is missing.
Lack of self-control affects the way we express anger, as it
results in inappropriate behaviour. Too many of us try to justify our angry
outbursts instead of taking responsibility and apologizing. We lash out, saying
the worst things, rather than walk away, not in defiance but as a preventative
measure. Inflamed tempers cloud reason and logic.
We must turn away from the cause of our displeasure to avoid
actions or words we’ll soon regret.
Let no evil talk come out of
your mouths but only what is good for building up, as there is need, so that
your words may give grace to those who hear. (Ephesians 4:29 NRSVUE)
Remember too that there’s power in what we say and what we
say will not just affect us but can infect us (see Proverbs 18:21).
Beloved, there’s nothing wrong with getting angry; anger is a natural human emotion; however, it’s the fomentation of anger that first incubates then incites sinful behaviour.
So, you can be angry but don’t stay angry because remaining
angry will only lead you to seek revenge but vengeance belongs to God alone
(see Deuteronomy 32:35 and Romans 12:19).
God does not expect you to not be angry, but He calls on you
to manage your anger otherwise you will sin and, it just isn’t worth it.
Amen †
Shelley Johnson “Be angry but…” © 2026 November 7, 2026






