As you know we’re in the season of Advent – the time when we celebrate the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. And, during this season, through different media, we are transported back to when Jesus was born. We hear the familiar story of God choosing a humble young woman named Mary from an insignificant town named Nazareth to give birth to the Christ. And, of course, we hear about the baby, Jesus, after all, He is the reason for this celebration.
But, what about Joseph, Mary’s husband? No one seems to pay
him much attention. His journey must have been quite a perplexing one. God had
also chosen Joseph, he was engaged to Mary and was to be father to God’s “only begotten (unique)” Son Jesus. Like Mary, he too had to pay a very dear price
for his role in humiliation. Let’s go to the Gospel of Matthew for Joseph’s
perspective.
Matthew chapter one lets us know that Joseph was already
engaged to be married to Mary when she would have received the message from the
angel Gabriel. Verse18 tells us that “before
they came together, she was found to be with child”. What a blow!
Put yourself in Joseph’s shoes for a moment. You’re about to marry a young sweet virgin girl; all the plans are in place and preparations for the wedding have already begun. You see, in those days, once that pledge had been made and accepted, immediately preparations began for the big day.
Joseph would have journeyed from his father’s house to offer
Mary’s father a price for marrying her; the two would have agreed, the price
paid, and a covenant made and Joseph and Mary would drink from a single cup to
symbolize their shared life.
Then Joseph would have gone back to his father’s house to
wait and prepare their future home, while Mary prepared herself and her
clothing and waited for Joseph to return. This was a 12-month period of sacred
separation where they were absolutely committed to be faithful and pure.
The couple was committed to being faithful and pure, you
get the picture.
So, to hear from his wife, that she is pregnant? He knew
that “he had no union with her” (v 25). What thoughts must have run through
Joseph’s head. He might have said “What manner of story is this Mary? Didn’t we
commit to be faithful and pure? I was.”
“Then Joseph her husband,
being just and not willing to expose her publicly, desired to leave her
secretly.” Matthew 1:19 (JUB)
Joseph was a just man – morally upright and obviously well
brought up – he wasn’t one to hastily jump on Facebook and twitter to air his
dirty laundry in an attempt to embarrass his wife for her perceived
indiscretion.
Joseph did not fight humiliation with humiliation. He was
not determined to seek revenge. Instead, despite the hurt, the confusion, the
disappointment, the mistrust, the emptiness, the emotional upheaval, and the
humiliation he must have been feeling, Joseph decided to divorce Mary quietly.
Joseph’s reaction to his dilemma ought to teach us all a lesson. He patiently and thoughtfully considered what he should do. His was not a knee-jerk reaction. And it proved to be a good thing because it was while he was contemplating his next move that “an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream” (v 20).
How do you react to news that impinges upon your ego?
How do you respond to perplexing situations?
When your spouse, significant other, or loved one tells you
something that leaves you confused and dumbfounded, what do you do?
Beloved, Joseph did not go to God, God came to him through an angel of the Lord but nothing is stopping
you from going to God if you find yourself in similar unimaginable
circumstances.
Do not be hasty, instead, like Joseph, take time to
consider, and talk to God. Ask Him to lead and guide you. Then wait patiently
for God, allow Him to sort things out for you.
Amen †
Shelley Johnson “What about Joseph?” © 2015 revisited December 16, 2025







