Very often members of a congregation are called to engage in week-long prayer vigils or 3-day fasts or month-long nightly prayer sessions and just as often, Jesus’ words found in Matthew chapter 18 are used as a preamble and source of encouragement.
For where two or three have
gathered together in [Jesus] name, [He is] there in their midst (ref.
v 20)
What a powerful declaration!
And so, we gather in one accord, presumably, and we pray in
church, and we pray together as one voice lifted up via zoom from home, and we
pray together at an appointed time wherever we are at that time and we kneel
and we stand and we prostrate ourselves and yet, nothing happens; the prayers
aren’t answered and we find that the financial breakthrough that we’ve prayed
for as a church for the last twenty years to construct the new church building
has not materialised, the flood of new members hasn’t been more than a trickle,
the former members have not returned in droves or at all, nothing answered and
we wonder…
What’s that about?
And so, another prayer meeting is organized, and another
fast, and another vigil and another lovely verse is used as a preface to the
new prayer session. Same chapter, different verse.
if two of you agree on earth
about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My
Father who is in heaven. (v 19 NASB 1995)
We are on this earth, we are asking and we agree, presumably
but it hasn’t been done – every prayer is left unanswered and we wonder...
Where are the results?
Now, this clearly shows the danger in pulling verses out of
a much bigger biblical narrative. These are just two verses from an entire
chapter of verses; a chapter comprising thirty-five verses and the verses above
are numbered nineteen and twenty, not respectively. It’s a case of the
proverbial taking of the cart before the horse, where verses one to eighteen
have been completely ignored.
The NASB 1995 version of Matthew chapter eighteen, from which
these two verses were extracted, has grouped verses in sections as follows,
1-6 is “Rank in the Kingdom”, where the disciples asked
Jesus, “Who then is greatest in the kingdom of
heaven?”
7-11 is “Stumbling Blocks”, where Jesus famously
says,
“If your hand or your foot
causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it from you; it is better for you
to enter life crippled or lame, than to have two hands or two feet and be
cast into the eternal fire. If your eye causes you to stumble, pluck it
out and throw it from you. It is better for you to enter life with one eye,
than to have two eyes and be cast into the fiery hell.”
12-14 is “Ninety-Nine plus One”, where Jesus after relating
the parable of the lost sheep says, “So it is
not the will of your Father who is in heaven that one of these
little ones perish.”
15-20 is “Discipline and Prayer”, where Jesus,
quoting scripture from Deuteronomy 17:6 says, “by
the mouth of two or three witnesses every fact may be confirmed”
21-35 is “Forgiveness”, where Peter asked Jesus, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and
I forgive him? Up to seven times?” to which Jesus answered, “I do not say
to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.”
Reading this chapter in its entirety, you’d realize that Jesus is teaching His disciples about resolving conflict. The opening line of Matthew 18 is the catalyst of conflict among the devoted followers of Jesus and is, in many instances, the cause of conflict that exists in churches even today.
Everybody is obsessed with their rank or position or title
within the church – Pastor and Bishop and Reverend and Elder and Deacon and
Steward and Evangelist and Sister and Brother and so on and so on and if they’re
not addressed in a certain manner, then they’d rather not be addressed at all
because you’re insolent while all the while you’re simply innocent and perhaps just
a little ignorant.
Apostle Paul, in his first epistle to the congregation at
Corinth wrote,
But take care that this
right of yours does not somehow become a stumbling block to the weak. (1
Corinthians 8:9 ESV)
Even in Paul’s day just as it had been in Jesus’ and now in
our own time, Christians become stumbling blocks to their fellow Christian brothers
and sisters. Too often we stand in each other’s way, hindering someone else’s
spiritual growth and development. We get so consumed with the what that we
neglect the who and are oblivious as the weak “little
ones” of the faith perish.
It is how we, by our words and actions, those things we say
and do, whether intentionally or unintentionally, impede others’ spiritual
progress. The seriousness of this issue must be taken into consideration, as it
is not only addressed by Jesus in Matthew 18 and Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians
8, but Paul also deals with it in Romans 14 and Luke in Acts 15.
Jesus said that in the world, stumbling blocks were
inevitable but added,
“…woe to that man through
whom the stumbling block comes!” (v 7)
Then immediately thereafter Jesus relates a parable. Parables challenge people to look into the hidden aspects of their own lives. They are meant to afflict the comfortable, to indict, to inculcate a new perspective of conventional and personal values and to emphasize the point of view.
Jesus begins His short story with a question,
If any man has a hundred
sheep, and one of them has gone astray, does he not leave the ninety-nine on
the mountains and go and search for the one that is straying? (v 12)
The Greek word “plano”, which has been translated as “gone
astray” carries the connotation of “deceive/deception”, therefore a better
translation of this verse would be,
If any man has a hundred
sheep, and one of them has been deceived, does he not leave the ninety-nine on
the mountains and go and search for the one that is deceived?
Can you see now, how this connects to Jesus’ warning of
being a stumbling block?
In this parable, blame cannot be assigned to the sheep that has gone astray, the one that is deceived, the
fault lays with the man who is shepherding the sheep. He was not as attentive
to his sheep as he ought to have been.
Notice that this parable speaks of the church’s
responsibility to care, doctrinally, for its members, who may be deceived by those
false prophets who Jesus had already warned us of in Matthew 7:15-16.
Jesus continues His teaching by carefully outlining the
process for resolving conflicts within the church community. Jesus is pointing
to respect, reconciliation and restoration.
Unlike what we see happening in churches today, conflict
resolution is to begin in private between the parties involved and is not to be
a broadcasting of your complaints. The inclusion of other parties only becomes
necessary if witnesses and wisdom are required and the involvement of the wider
community, if multiple attempts at the first two stages of resolving the
conflict have failed.
Nowadays, persons both inside and outside the church haven’t
a clue about resolving conflicts with respect and compassion; it’s all out war
and in this age of social media, conflict has become a spectator sport.
Sadly, the church is no longer the example to follow as
Elder Bob is not talking to Elder Sue, half of Pastor Joe’s congregation is angry
and upset with him, this minister refuses to work with that minister, the
stewards are at loggerheads, the worship team can’t get along, this faction of
priests want to have nothing to do with that faction, and Sister Amy will not
sit in the same pew as Brother Lou.
All this does is cause division. What did Jesus say?
“Any kingdom divided by civil
war is doomed. A town or family splintered by feuding will fall apart.” (Matthew
12:25 NLT)
This includes the family of believers.
When reading Matthew 18:17, remember, Jesus ate with tax collectors, He did not shun them; having a meal together promotes fellowship. Sharing a meal with someone, especially in the way it was done in Jesus’ day was a very intimate affair; it encouraged closeness, broke down barriers, and formed a connection. It should have today, the same powerful effect of relationship building, it had then.
And don’t forget that it was Jesus who sent Paul out to the
Gentiles (see Acts 13:47).
We seem to have forgotten that these were the people for
whom Jesus came – the lost, the ones who were straying, the deceived (see Luke
19:10 & Matthew 15:24) – us and others like us, our fellow church members; yes,
even the one you are avoiding.
It’s time for restoration and reconciliation in the church which
can only come with genuine forgiveness. People need to be honest, accountable
and responsible. The goal for every member of the community must be to heal
broken relationships with each other and with God.
Understand that when Peter asked Jesus if he should forgive
someone who sins against him up to seven times (Matthew 18:21), he understood the significance
of the number seven, so that when Jesus replied up
to seventy times seven, Peter was well aware that this wasn’t a
random selection of multiples simply to signify great forgiveness.
You see, the number 490 represents a time of grace but that’s
an explanation better left for another day. Until then, know that by His
response to Peter, Jesus was revealing the heart of the New Covenant – the forgiveness
of sins.
Beloved, Matthew chapter 18 is all about the proper way of resolving conflicts.
Jesus had a way of meeting people where they were, showing grace,
connection, compassion and forgiveness above all and you and I, in emulating Him,
must endeavour to do the same.
If we as a church community want to experience answers to
all our prayer vigils, monthly prayer and fasts, our weekly prayer meetings and
our daily prayer partnerships according to Matthew 18:19-20, then we can’t ignore
the other parts of this chapter and certainly, we cannot afford to be
escalating conflicts rather than resolving conflicts.
Amen †
Shelley Johnson “Resolving Conflicts” © 2026 July 13, 2026










