“Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way
you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity.” – 1 Timothy 4:12 (NLT)
In the above verse Paul told the young
Timothy that he must be an example to other believers and from this same verse
we can garner that, as believers, we too must be examples for others to follow,
especially in our own families.
In our households, we ought to lead by
example. It’s the people at home that witness our true characters. Even our
level of faith is revealed by how we respond to everyday life situations. Our
behavior at home, godly and ungodly, exposes the fruit we’re cultivating within
our hearts, whether spiritual or otherwise. In Matthew 7:16 Jesus says that
people can be identified by the fruit they produce, in other words, by the way
they act.
How have you been behaving?
Are you one way in public but completely
different in private? When your family looks at you what are they seeing? Are
they seeing a person who exercises authentic faith? A person who, in spite of
the challenges of life, stands firm in faith that is steadfast? A person unmoved
by the raging storm because you know that Jesus, in whom you trust, has
authority over every storm?
What are they seeing?
Does your family see divine inner strength
in you? Do they see a person who boldly goes to the Lord in prayer about
everything with thanksgiving, seeking His direction?
Who do they see?
Do they see a person so convinced of the
ability and willingness of Jesus Christ to provide an abundant life, that you
do not hesitate to share with them the faith that you have in Him, so that they
too may experience a wonderful faith-filled life?
Are you living by faith?
Faith is caught and if you are unwilling to
show your family that you are living by faith in Jesus, then you are not
leaving an example of authentic faith for your family to see and follow.
If your family never observes you giving
thanks in all circumstances (1 Thessalonians 5:18), then you are not leaving an
example of authentic faith for your family to see and follow.
If
your family never hears you declaring that God is working all things together
for good because you love Him and are called according to His purpose (Romans
8:28), then you are not leaving an example of authentic faith for your family
to see and follow.
If you have not demonstrated that you recognize
that every good and perfect gift comes from above (James 1:17), then you are
denying your family an opportunity to see genuine faith at work right in their
own home.
Giving your family a practical example is
just part of the legacy of faith in Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour. You must
also teach your family about Jesus and their need for Him in their lives. I’m
not talking here about brow-beating anyone into believing or hitting them over
the head with your Bible and condemning anybody of just how much of a sinner
they are, no that’s not the way.
If you are genuinely concerned about
leading your family to Jesus, then talk about Him. Just as you’d talk about
anyone else that you love a lot, simply let them know, from your heart, about
Him. Make Jesus the object of your desire, explain how He makes you feel,
without turning the conversation into a monologue about yourself.
People need to know what Jesus can effect
in their lives. Speak in terms of how God is able to do immeasurably more than
they could ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20).
Sit together and delve into the Word, not
as a chore but read and discuss the Word, for faith comes by hearing God’s
Word.
Love your family enough to let them in on
the Good News of Jesus and the unconditional love the Father has for them.
Let them know that God loves them so much
that He allowed His one and only Son to die on their behalf for every sin that
they have committed, are committing, and will ever commit; dying such an awful
and cruel death so that they could inherit eternal life (John 3:16).
Help your family understand the manner of
love God has for them and just how much He values them – His treasured and prized
creation, fearfully and wonderfully made (see Psalm 139).
Let them know that absolutely nothing can
separate them from the love God has for them (Romans 8:38-39).
However, nothing you say to your family
will hold any weight if your relationship with them is not the best, you’ll
just come across as disingenuous. If you’re not showing love to your own
family, then every time you attempt to speak to them, all they will hear is the
sound of clanging cymbals (1 Corinthians 13). You cannot be talking about the
love of God and your love for God when you’re not demonstrating love,
especially to your children.
Providing your child’s basic needs is one
thing, getting involved in their lives through genuine interest and concern and
care is another. Too often as a parent, you tend to be constantly critical
every time you set eyes on your child, letting loose a barrage of negative
speech geared towards everything that child does.
What type of relationship are you breeding?
Cultivate a relationship that would allow
you to have a positive influence on your child’s life. When he knows that you
care, he’d be inclined to listen to you. Jesus related to individuals in love
and then He was able to meet their spiritual needs because He had established a
loving connection with them.
The way you treat your child will determine
the way they respond to you. And the way they respond to their earthly parent
is the way they’ll respond to their heavenly Father. So it is very important to
lay a secure foundation upon which they could successfully build; a groundwork
for how they will perceive God.
For instance, if you are a parent that
keeps his word then they will trust that God will be true to His word. Spend
time with your child, enjoy his company, and no matter the age, find ways to
stay connected in love.
Beloved, seize those teachable moments in
practical ways and teach through love and gentleness. Do all you can to point
your family toward Jesus, by the way you live and by what you teach; be a
pattern for them in your love, your faith, and your purity.
Beloved, pray without ceasing for your
loved ones. Realize that it is not your responsibility to make a person accept
Jesus as their Lord and Saviour, but it is your responsibility to share the
gospel, the good news, of Jesus. Be faithful in doing your part but keep in
mind that each of us has been given free will to choose or not to choose Jesus.
Beloved, do not be harsh on your family if
they are not responding to Jesus in the way you think they should. Do not give
up on them; remember, your family members will receive Jesus only when they
recognize that they need Him. Just continue to lift Jesus up and He will draw
all people to Himself (John 12:32).
keep the Lord Christ holy in your hearts. Always be ready to answer everyone
who asks you to explain about the hope you have. – 1 Peter 3:15 (ERV)
Beloved, pray to be a godly example to
others, setting apart Christ as Lord, always prepared to give an answer to
everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have and to always
do so with gentleness and respect.
Amen †
Shelley Johnson “Faith is Caught and Taught” © 2017 revisited November 8, 2025